Understanding Dignity

What does dignity look like for vulnerable adults with intellectual/developmental disabilities? 

1. We respect their differences.  We build a meaningful relationship with them. We respect their limitations. We hear what they’re saying. It's immensely frustrating when we do not.

2. Maybe, instead of trying to change their behavior, we can look at why they are having the behavior and try to change whatever is making them uncomfortable. 

3. We do NOT talk down to them! Do not use baby talk or change the inflection in our tone – ever! Now, in many ways, they may seem as if they are a child... but often we hear people talk to them in a way that most people wouldn’t even talk to a 5 year old. They are adults and are highly intelligent human beings... treat them like an adult, the intelligent person that they are. 

4. Don’t make assumptions. Involve them in decisions about their life. Listen to what they have to say. Even people that are non-verbal have preferences and when we make it a priority to hear them, they are telling us what they want, no matter how subtle. This approach builds confidence. Confidence opens doors to a fulfilled life.

Are they tolerated, not accepted? Do we feel the need to “manage” their care?

Are we so focused on controlling their day that we are robbing them of personal dignity?

 Or do we welcome them as equals?   This is the question of dignity.